Wednesday, 2 July 2014

I'm Sorry. Is there any significance to it?

I'm sorry. These words don’t mean anything unless you are there to provide evidence that you mean them.
Sorry: (of a person) Regretful for an action.
Saying sorry alone is never going to let the other person forgive if its not a small issue. The word sorry was invented for apologizing for small issue like stepping on a toe, etcetera but what if the issue was big? What if you cheated? What if you said something very wrong? What if?
Saying sorry isn’t going to to help you getting them to forgive you. It’s only going to get them angry and disappointed more in you. Saying sorry has never fixed anything easily. People think that they can do whatever they want and say sorry? NO. That’s not how things work. You need to prove that you’re feeling sorry actually and not just saying it. It can take a lot of time for someone to forgive, but forgetting? That’s a whole different story. But once they forgive, forgetting is easy.
People have a different opinion on everything on the planet. You won’t know but people can judge you for drinking bottle from a bottle, too. That’s how much they can judge.
People in a relationship, Friends, Et cetera just try to not judge you. People make up an image of what you are. It’s different for everybody. Some keep it bad, some good. Sometimes when you don’t know what kind of a image they have of you and you do something which eventually leads to them thinking that you’re different than what they thought and that leads them to being angry, disappointed and what not. So, their being angry isn’t exactly your full fault, it’s a quarter of theirs, too. But you get to be the wealthy part of their reason.
How to prove that you’re actually sorry? No one knows. People say that being there for them is the best way but how can you be there for someone who doesn’t want to be in your company, doesn’t want to hear from you, and doesn’t want to talk?
You do what you should. You let them be angry, you let them be disappointed and you let them talk whenever they feel like.
Don’t let your ego come in between you and the person whose forgiveness you seek.
Won’t it be so easy if everything was resolved with just a sorry?
“Hey, I killed your baby. I’m so sorry”
“I’m so sorry for cheating on you, babe.”
Emotions will cease to exist. You might find that saying sorry isn’t a effective way because they might not forgive you for a very long time but when they do. It’s an ‘Oh-so-sweet’ feeling. You’ll find that the relation between you have deepened regardless of it being a friendship or relationship etc. Let them be angry, but keep telling them you’re sorry and how sad you are. Don’t be angry.



    

Life, what is it?

Live Free.
People interpret this statement as having a free nation. Freedom from rule, that’s what people interpret free as.  Freedom is not just about the government, it is about how you live. Fear shouldn't be of life and death. Death is a thing that is bound to come. Life is the only race you participate in which you don't want to win. No one dies before their time or after their time. It is a natural cause just like growing up. There isn't much fun in living a very long life, if you have a memorable life, that’s all. The only thing is people should remember good things about you, and by people, I mean family, friends, colleagues, acquaintances, etc. The basic idea is that people who know you should always have good thoughts about you.
If, say, someone is diagnosed with cancer and has been given a window of a year or two to live, he’ll probably be the only one who is going to live life as it was meant to. Not being afraid of life and death. That is living free, but to live free we can’t all hope to get cancer soon, can we?
Once you know how to live free, it’ll all be a piece-o-cake for you. People are going to make your life hell but that doesn't mean that you’ll allow them. They’ll try but it’s you who is going to stop them and If you’re lucky enough you’ll find that one person with whom there will be paradise for every second you’re with them, it’ll be the only escape from the never ending purgatory. You’ll feel good when you’re in their company.
 Death is something that is bound to happen. Death is inevitable, it comes just like life. If there’s life, there’s bound to be death or else it’ll be a stampede of people all over the world. People want to live for a long time, but if you’re old, sitting in a wheelchair not able to talk, need help to poop or to take a bath, you won’t be praying to live, you’ll just want to leave in peace.
Yes, there are deaths which are not conventional like being hit by a car, bus, etcetera. or being tortured by maniacs but it’s death. It’s all karma if you believe in it or just choices that you made. It’s all a matter of perspective through which you perceive what all is happening around you. People blame god, they blame the government, the doctors and other people. But it’s all bound to happen so why blame people, not everyone intentionally is going to kill someone, unless that’s their job.
So, there’s god, there’s choices, there’s people. Choose whom you’re going to blame because you know you are going to blame someone for somebody’s death.
There’s that or you can live without fear, stop blaming, believe in things, take risks and you’ll live happy.